She is sooo adorable. Next week she graduates High School, then the week after that it’s college then marriage, and soo you and steve become Grandparents…. No I am kidding Ju. Love you, Miss you. Enjoy her…. So proud of both you and Steve.

Last year I became a Greatgrandmother here in stockton
all I can say as always she’s BEAUTFUL I had a greatgrand
SON all our love
Henrrietta

Sooo precious! Definitely enjoy your time with her. The years fly by so quickly.

Natalia looks like she is growing up fast especially in the third picture. She is just adorable. Thank you Ju for sharing the pictures.

She is absolutely gorgeous!! Congratulations to you and Steve

Hey Ju congratdulations on your buddle of joy. I watch your news channel everyday an iI was excited when iI heard u was first pregnant. I have a daughter an she iI iis two. just wanted to say u guys enjoy her now causesse as soon as she turn one its over.

Ju she is so beatiful and sweet looking I know she must be a good baby. Congrates!!!! Hope she brings you as much joy as you brought your mom. One of your biggest fans.

Its a great time in your life,i am very happy for you and Steve.Your baby is GORGEST.Get your rest you will need it.Jo miss you on the show,but dont rush,take your time you need that.This is a good time to bond with the your baby.Thank you for the updates.

I had my second daughter in November 2010.. I can tell you time goes by so fast and the way she will change. Every time I trun around there is a new face and sound which is nice. Let me tell you as long as they laugh more than they cary you are doing your job right.

CONGRADS ON YOUR NEW FAMILY AND I HOPE ALL IS WELL!!!!! SHE IS BEAUTFUL!!!!!

Just want congrats too the both of you on your new baby she is sooo cute!

I almost died laughing when I saw the leopard print swaddling cloth. Of course, what else would she have!

So sweet.Time goses so fast.

When was Natalia born?? I need specs!!! (wt. length, time)

And date!! PLEASE!!!!!!

Love the leopard print wrap!

LOVE ALL THE PIC

she is sooooo cute!!! Congrats to you both!! Love the leopard print swaddler!!!

love the leopard swaddle!! shes adorable:)

she is Bella……

she gets prettyer everyday. ju you will make a very good mommy.

she is so cute! and yeah they grow up so fast. we miss you hope to see you back soon. congrats to you and Steve

Congradulation Ju……I’m so happy for you and Steve!! She is an absolute doll, what a good job you did!! I know how I felt when I had my first daughter and now she is 27, don’t blink (like the country song says) or you’ll turn around and she will be all grown up!!

she is beauty! does she like the car seat? my oldest daughter (4 yrs) cried her whole 1st yr of her life anytime we had to go anywhere in the car. it was awful!! then her 1st ride facing forward after her 1st bday never cried again. my baby girl now (7mos) loves it! as long as the car is moving she loves everything

Give that swing a few months it will be the best thing ever. We have the same swing and my guy is 6 months and he loves it!!!

omg she is so cute ju congrats and might i add she looks just like you!! congrats to you and steve on your beautiful blessing!!

She is beautiful like her Mom! Congrats to you both!

Your gonna have a blast with her she is adorable……

congrats to you and Steve

I said the same thing too, that everyone warns you that it’s different but I just didn’t realize it until I was living it! Congrats and thanks for sharing your pictures with all of us!

She is sooo adorable congrats … to you and steve

Sleep???? Start scrapbooking girl!!! She has a really sweet face. Congrats to you and Steve.

CONGRADULATIONS ON UR BLESSING,,,SHE IS BEAUTIFUL♥I NAMED MY LAST BABY JULISSA♥SHE WILL B 1 ON FEB,11,,,ENJOY CUZ THEY GROW SOOOO FAST,,,

Hey Ju, It is wonderful to be a parent I was 38 before I found out Yes it is life changing and priorities change. It is the most filloing and wonderful thing I have ever known Enjoy it. It goes by so fast Love you too steve.

She is so precious! Congratulations!! Do you have a wipe warmer? My son would always cry when I changed his diaper until I got a wipe warmer.

she is precious I’ve been checking from day 1
congratulations to you and Steve.What a wonderful joy.
miss you at work.

Ay, que Bella nina tuviste Julisa! Felicidades a ti a a tu esposo y espero y disfruten de ella!
Translation: Wow, what a beautiful baby you had Julisa! Congratulation to you and your husband! Enjoy her!

she is such a bundle of joy and sooo cute!!!!

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, Lat a precious , precious little beauty – Looks just like you Ju she is definitely going to train you right – Enjoy !

Congrats!!! She is just a little love bug! Enjoy as they grow up so fast!

She is absolutely adorable!!! Congrats you guys !! enjoy her while she is this small.. before you know it she will learn the word NO and it will be her favorite word! lol but for real… she is so sweet, cant wait to see more pics

WOW, I am happy because your are happy Congratulations!!!

Your new Baby Daughter is so very Precious! I remember the sheer Joy of having a new baby girl! Ours is now 23….hold her close as much as you want! You & Steve will never regret it! This first year will go by so fast! And all of us Viewers really appreciate you both “sharing” thank you! Heidi Mettier Patterson

she is so cute with her leopard I happy for both you hope you enjoy every mins of her

Congratulations Julissa & Steve…Natalia is the most precious baby ever! and thank you for sharing her with all of us, your extended Good Day Sacramento “family”.
My favorite pic is of her swaddled in the leopard print very appropriate!

Beautiful. She’s such a blessing and a joy too look at. Congrats to you and Steve.

P.S.
Thank you for sharing. I watch every morning.

She is beautiful!! Congratulations to you and Steve! What fun you will have scrapbooking!!! Enjoy!

Congratulations..such a miracle!

Ju & Steve thank you for taking the time out from your “sleepy time” to e-mail all of us and for sharing your lil’ angel with us she’s so beautiful.get as much sleep as you can love to all,Terry

It warms my heart to hear how much you two are enjoying this time with Natalia. I may be predjudiced, but she is amazingly expressive for one week old!

So happy for the Large family .. She is just precious .. enjoy every moment they grow up so fast ,, In no time she will be in school . Thanks so much for sharing these pics and updates xoxo

Love all the pictures, and of course the leopard print blanky.,,,that baby has style already…Cut form the same cloth as Mama….

I was thinking that you should have named her Natalia, Stella, Bella, and then Large, of course, because that’s a lot of name…LOL… I bet Chris Burrous loves the name also…

She is an Angel!! You and Steve are blessed. Forget the rest, time will fly too fast. May your home be filled with love and happiness God Bless You and watch over this new family!!

CONGRAT’S!!!!! She is beautiful, enjoy every minute with her, and take a picture of her everyday, I did that with my son. That was 21 years ago on the 3rd of Jan. and I think that was the best gift he received. Best of luck to you and Steve.

She is so adorable… Congradulations to you both!!!!

So happy for you both, congrats. Enjoy Natalia while she’s little. Amazing as parents, we just can’t wait for our children to walk and talk only to turn around and tell them, as toddlers, to keep quiet and ‘sit down’. As a Nana of four, trust me, Natalia is a cutie worth investing in a shot gun to keep the boys at bay. ^_^

I am sooooooo Happy for you and Steve!!!!!! She is soooooo Beautiful and I am so happy you two are having so much fun with her!! I love her lepard print blankie that is soo adorable!! You two enjoy every minute with her….cuz they grow so fast!! Can’t wait til you come back Julissa u are definitly missed by me your bright smiling face!!! But enjoy all your time off with your bundle of joy!! and I love her name it’s beautiful just like herself!!

congrat to you and steve she is a angel andyou are right time flies when you are have fun and enjoy every second because they do grow up fast i have to boys one just turn 18 the other will be 17 on jan 22 god bless you and your family

Congratulations Ju and Steve…she is absolutely beautiful. Now you have all the years ahead to enjoy her.

Congratdulations awwww ju and steve she is so adorable and cute.hope u have a blast with your bundle of joy hope to see more and more pics

Congratulations! She is absolutely beautiful…she will have your and Steve trained soon…the only advise I can give new parents…if you have done EVERYTHING (changed her diaper, fed her) and nothing works, play the music you listened to while you were pregnant…I listened to Bob Marley when I was pregnant, and when all else failed, Bob Marley didn’t.

Just when you think you can never love more… you will know you can love more. Congratulations!

aww! So beautiful! Thank you for sharing! <3

Congrats on your new addition! She is absolutely gorgeous, I see she likes her leopard print just like her mama! We are so sad we missed you @ Johns incredible pizza, even though I knew the toy’s Destiny picked out for your baby were a bit too old for her, she was adamant about those particular toys.
Any ju, we had a great time with camera guy Tony, he was so great with Destiny. We loved how her Antelope Jr.Titan’s bow and shirt matched the GDS mic…We love you all and miss seeing you in the morning…Please give Princess Natalia lot’s of kisses from Destiny!

congrates 2 u & steve

She’s a blessing, God bless you all.

Your baby is adorable. Enjoy these pecious times with her, before you know it she will all grown up.
It happen to me with our daughter, She is a young lady now.

O M G She is beautiful !! The smile on her face with the boppy made my whole day !!!!!!! Congrats to you and your new family. Can’t wait to see new pics. Tammy

your baby is so beautifuli have 3 kids all girls if anyone can relate how do i make them quit fighting

What a beautiful daughter. Enjoy every minute, they grow up so fast. My first, a premie at 2lb 13 oz. will be 45 in April. Oh how I treasure the memories of him growing up and that of his brother and sister. You and Steve have a charming daughter. Definately nap when she does, if at all possible. Love the leopard print blanket. God bless you new family.

loving the swaddling cloth!!!!

Boy!!!!! She is a Large Baby. She is beautyful & she looks like you Ju.

Many, many blessed Congrats to you and Steve! Natalia is so very BEAUTIFUL! And she looks so alert too;) And yes you will see the difference on being new parents, you learn, see and have all these very new emotions that did not expierence before, but they are very wonderful changes:) You and Steve will the the best parents and she is going to grow up in a very loving environment…My two little men Daniel and Isaiah want to go shoping to go get something for Natalia, and we are the Good Day 5 am viewers that renewed our 10 year marriage vows last year on Good Day, and we will forever be so greatful to you and all the rest of the Good Day Crew, and we are still married! LOL! God Bless You, Steve and Natalia:)
Warm Regards,
Marie, Robert, Daniel and Isaiah Wells of West Sacramento, CA

Oh my goodness! Natalia is beautiful just like her mom! Congratulations Julissa & Steve!

She is so beautiful, congradulations, she is so pretty. I missed the announcement on the show, so catch me up, when and how much did she weigh, Isn’t motherhood wonderful, Love the leopard swaddling, what a shock lol.

SHES BEAUTIFUL CONGRADULATIONS

Ju, so happy for you! I am 14 weeks pregnant with my first and watching you and Natalia makes me even more excited if that’s even possible. I LOVE the swaddler blanket, can you tell me where you got it?? Keep up the good work, such a beautiful sweet baby!!! lots of love for your family!

hello Ju,
Wanted to say congrats to your and Steve. I watch the show everyday and was so happy when i found out that you where the next one to have a baby. i have a 8month old grandson and they grow so fast, so take alot of photos and make alot of note in her baby book. Just take all the time to get to know her now while she is not moving around that much, cause in just a few months she will be on the move and trying to get everything.
Again, congrates to your and Steve.

Ju you and Steve will be the best PARENTS. Ju I am so Jazzed…. Steve followed you.. and is so Persistent. Ju I know you were afraid of commitment. I came from a divorce family.. It took the BREATH OUT OF MY HEART. I did not trust for a long time..Mr. Large YOU FOUND A GOOD WOMEN AND YOU ARE A GREAT MAN..BLESS GOD FOR THE BOTH OF YOU… AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL BABY…… MAKE HER PROUD.

Geez, you’re the first person to have a baby???? Get over it, I’m sick of you!!!

Ju, How precious and adorable. Wherever did you find your Leopard swaddle? Enjoy your baby. You did the kooky collection of golf balls in W.Sac at my son’s house (not so kooky, but a nice collection and so nice to meet you) in November 2008. Congrats to the new Mom and Dad.

She’s so pretty pretty soon she’ll b running ur house!

OMG She is soooo CUTE! Take care of yourself as well as Natalia Lots of rest this first month, you’ll never get it back she will be running you and steve befor you know it LOL enjoy shes beautiful!! Please keep posting pictures i love it.

My husband always says that babies are the God’s way of telling you, you were getting waaaay to much sleep before! Yes, they do, indeed change your life forever. And of course, she loves being swaddled – she’s in leopard!! Just try to remember as much of her youth as possible, and embrace every moment – good and bad – as a gift! And would you like your bare bottom to hit the cold air, LOL! Yes, when she sleeps, you sleep, that is a necessity. Congratulations to you and Mr. Large.

What a beautiful blessing she is…congratulations!

hello julissa congrats on the baby she is beautiful god bless you all and keep the pics coming

Ditto , as every ones input. Babys do grow so fast, enjoy every moment, the both of you have with natalia. And yes i think lepeord sutes her. Me and my husband enjoyed our first, now 15 seems like yesterday. She is still my baby Waverly. Dina from Stockton, hope to see you and tina back soon.

She is such a beautiful baby. Enjoy every minute with her

Congratulations Ju! She is beautiful just like her mommy. I have a 7 week old and I know what you mean. He loves his Boppy and so do I. I had a C-section and the boppy makes everything much easier. Thanks for sharing all of your joy with all of the Goodday fans!

I have never seen two people look happier…She will be getting louder pretty quick…I love it at first they are like little kittens with the tiny little cries, then before a couple of months flies by they become experts at making Mommy and Daddy respond to what ever they want. It is amazing how quickly we all became Mommy and Daddy robots, and happy to do so…Have Fun! And one day they become the loudest screamer on the planet, but they are yours…And well that’s just the part of the fun of it all…

wouldn’t you know that you would some how find a leopard print for the little one. just to say congrats to you and steve. it is amazing being a mom too. enjoy the special moments that go along and take plenty of pics and notes to leave her in future. i can see steve when she has her first date ha ha !

She is such a cute baby. Congrats to you and Steve.

My niece HATED being dirty. But hated to be messed with when we changed her. LOL babies are so much fun. I sure hope you get the rest you need. It’s important to find the place she likes best. Like the swing. Or a bassinett. Anywhere you know she will sleep. That is a good thing.

Ju & Steve,
I am so happy for you both, she is adorable!! I remember my 1st (22 yrs) to my 4th (2 yrs) as if it were yesterday, everyday is an adventure that will either frustrate you or make you laugh un-controllably (Ju does this anyway!!).
The both of you will enjoy every minute of each day with anticipation of what you will see her do next. Feel free to check out my girls on my facebook if you would like. Bradford Ramos, I will look to add you if you don’t mind so I can watch your cutie grow older.
Ju already has the right idea of getting some rest when Natalia is sleeping (cat naps), even if they are short, you still feel rested some how!!…..LOL
Enjoy your family everyday as if your still a kid yourself,
Brad Ramos & Family Stockton, CA

hello ju love the baby hay did you get the baby hat I made

she is absolutely beauuuuutiful ju and change in ur life is an understatement especially with a daughter….i wish u and steve much luv and enjoyment with that little peice of wonder and if u want to see a change in a man watch him with a daughter its the most enlightening miracle ive seen, again i say lotsa luvnpeace in ur journey of parenting its big chapter enjoy it all…..comin from a mom of three daughters and a grandaughter

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Congtatulations, I just turned 20 my First daugher was born, you learn as you go. I have two daughters and 7 grandchildren now and all the best thing that ever has happened. You are a beautiful couple so enjoy..xo Carol

Ju, Natalia & Steve, I am so very happy for the entire family. My baby girl just turned 20 this past Saturday and I still feel like I just had her. She is my life. I hope the days and years to come bring the two of you everything you wish for.

congrats you two. She is really precious and gorgeous!!! Gee wonder why she has a leopard print swaddling blanket? hmmmmm
enjoy her while you can. they grow up so fast and you wonder where the time went!!

She is so pretty u guys….Congrats on being first time parents its a blast…I have 3 and I wouldn’t change it for the world…:)

God blessed two good looking parents with a beautiful baby..

I see Steve in this picture…such a beautiful baby!

Funny you can tell she’s loving all that camera attention…sooo cute……

Congratulations Ju and Steve, she is so precious and beautiful.. I am so happy for you an Steve..

She is so adorable. We are having our first granddaughter in June. Can not wait. Girls are so much more fun to dress. Enjoy!!

Congrats she is beautiful!!!

Congratulations to you and Steve your little angel is soo cute i know you will have years of love enjoyment with Natalia thanks for sharing .love you guys miss you much on goodday

She is so beautiful. Enjoy every moment you can! there all blessings from the lord God bless

beautiful

SHE IS BEAUTIFUL. THE OLD SAYING THAT ARE BABIES ARE CUTE IS A LIE. I HAVE SEEN SOME VERY UGLY BABIES. IT IS ALL IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER, RIGHT? BLESS OF LUCK IN THE YEARS TO COME SOME WILL BE GOOD AND SOME NOT SO. LOL. ENJOYMENT TO YOU BOTH. THE YEARS WILL FLY BY SO ENJOY THEM WHILE YOU CAN. BEFORE YOU KNOW IT THEY WILL HAVE THEIR OWN 4 YEAR OLD THAT HAS TO DISMANTLE ANY THING IN SITE AND BE WAY TO SMART FOR A 4 YEAR OLD. FROM A MOTHER WITH 35 YEARS OF EXPERIENCE……….JULIE COWAN aka betterafter50@yahoo.com

Oh my!! She is just soooooo pretty, and sooooo precious;) LOVE the pics! I know you guys are having too much FUN with that angel in the house! Just relax, and enjoy this time with her, it goes by so fast, and you can’t go back to it!! I speak from experience, my girls are 8 and 9 now. Boy, do I miss the “baby” days sometimes:( Thanks so MUCH for sharing!!

Love the baby pics but we miss Steve, where has he been?

?! . Yet, knowing this is how the OB acts, she feels all itvcimized and sad about her experience when inevitably she ends up with all the interventions she said she didn’t want. I am always sorry when ANYONE has a bad birth experience, but if you insist on playing with a dog you KNOW bites, through evidence and intuition, demonizing the dog is less healing than examining your part in why you might not have made better choices for yourself, honouring your need for better support. Yes, sometimes women ARE totally victims of their doulas and doctors, this is true. Sometimes even the gentlest seeming of dogs bite for no reason. But is seems to me, you had very fair warning.Yes, clearly a handbag would have been better in this situation, because you sadly had a bad experience and have nothing to really show for the money you spent but a handful of bad memories and complaints. A handbag, however, will never call you on your resonsibility to own your own choices. Guess I ain’t no handbag. I truly hope you had the integrity to talk about your ire to your doula before making this fiasco totally public. There are others out there who might deeply appreciate the type of care she offers, but who may not choose it now because you, in anger, have played up all the bad stuff. This is why I don’t badmouth OBs, because I have many women who WANT aggressive interventions, and appreciate this approach. This is their choice, and it is my job to support choice. I truly wish you the best on your road to healing from this experience. I wish it had been better for you. Women deserve to be empowered, loved, and nurtured in birth and postpartum.

MyFreeProductSamples on October 14, 2011 @MsExoticBliss Hey thanks! I try to keep it nice and clean and only post stuff I’d order aolsenprly myself!

You asked many important real-life quoitsens we all confront as an individual human being and also as a nation in a thoughtful and honest narrative. We all should acknowledge first that abortion is a “hard” ethical, social, economic, and political issue which will not grant us an easy, clear-cut answer. We should remain humble about our position – even when we (have to) take one. Unlike other “civilized” but vastly secular Europe, abortion is a much more controversial and politically divisive issue in America, because, as you pointed out here, it is intimately linked to many people’s religious values, which they also feel are under increasing attack. With some sense of tragedy, I agree with you on that many Christians are voting for the conservative politicians because progressives “mock” their religious convictions. It is also an irony to see those conservative politicians who chant “pro-life” slogans are often the first ones who want to cut less than minimal communal support we have for the most vulnerable and defenseless; among them is a young, single mom who might have preferred to keep her baby given our social and economic support plus less stigma. When one cannot afford a pro-life, one’s choice for abortion is not a real choice based on one’s freedom and conscience. It is as much of a social, economic issue as an ethical.

I completely agree with all 10 of your ngogestiuss. I have two girls age’s 11 and 9 and they both are well aware of their parts and boys parts too, and what they are all for. My mother talked to be about sex when I was younger, but I took it a step further. Not only did I apply all 10 steps into our life, but we have had them both watch a few movies here and there with a man and a women having intercourse. The question was raised by my husband and I about letting our girls watch scary movies with people getting injured and or killed, but then not letting them watch two people making love. So then a few days later, we let them watch a love scene, but then paused the scene after and talked about it. We feel that it’s important not only for our girl’s future, but ours as well to be communicating on such a level that nothing is left out. Two yours ago I talked about the difference between sodomy and anal sex. A couple of years before that talked about rape, peer pressure, strangers and other people who are not strangers, but who are capable of sex crimes as well, for reference. I want them to be so informed that they will not be surprised, clueless or unsure as what to do or who to talk too when they get to that point in there lives. In ways I feel like it’s too much information, but that’s what I feel like I have to do to help them not just survive, but live well. I want them to know that they do have choices and that with those choices comes responsibility as well as consequences for those choices made in every aspect of their lives. Yes, communication about sex is a must with my daughters and they both have told me that they love me for that. I planted the seeds, I nurture them and now I will watch them grow.

Help me understand, Dr. Rob. What’s the deeffrince between the patient you describe under scenario 2 (someone experiencing acute exacerbations which require temporary pharmacological control) and someone who is using the medication as an inappropriate quick fix? Dr. Rob: If a client has an onset of panic attacks or depression that incapacitates them (i.e., can’t get out of the house and therefore reisks losing her job), most psychiatrists wouldn’t see this as a quick fix, especially if the client begins to address the problem in therapy after they’ve been pulled out of the abyss. By contrast, many psychiatrists complain that they have patients who come to them at the slightest negative emotion. They can’t feel frustrated at work, their spouses are annoying, they don’t want to EVER feel sad. These patients are usually denied medicine or simply placated with it and need to be working through this stuff. They treat the medicine as a Magic Bullet, the cure-all of everything wrong in life.

Darger Family,Glad to see another fmliay putting a positive light on the principle under the public spotlight. I too have a plural fmliay with my two wives and (almost) 12 children. One of my wives is a direct descendent of Lorin C. Woolley the only on in the principle if I understand correctly though her parents were (are) staunch LDS. I’m looking forward to obtaining and reading your book. I already have a copy of the first and only Mormon Fundamentalist magazine with the wives/mothers picture on it I wish there would’ve been more.I pray for the Lord’s protection in your personal and business lives now that you’ve come out publicly. I’ve been willing to do it, but my wives have been retiscent. And, given my other outspokenness in public forums, newspapers, and my running a few Mormon Fundamentalist discussion groups, I wonder how much your efforts will sway the public in your/our favor. But then, perhaps the experiences that will result, good and bad, will be mostly for your benefit. Rub off a few more rough edges! I know I could probably use it!Well, good on you folks. I enjoyed the video I watched of The Mighty Sequoyah . Very talented, great music and lyrics, great crescendo from the beginning of the song to the end. Best to you all! If we can help, let us know.Clan HansenChris, Michelle, Candace and fmliay

I used to work with a woman who hated our mutual boss (who I slkiided also). And one day she was really indignant. I talked to Bill, she said, and he said he thought I didn’t like him! He told you that? Yeah! Why would he say that? Well, you don’t like him, I said. But he doesn’t know that! I thought it was funny how upset she was to be accused or something that was true. She seemed to actually think he was doing something wrong by believing (correctly) that she didn’t like him.I don’t think people either like me or don’t. Most of my peers didn’t like me when I was a kid, but I think most of my coworkers think I’m all right. I’m sure they gripe about me behind my back, like I do about them, but that’s normal. I haven’t known many adults (maybe one or two) who have made their dislike of me obvious enough for me to notice, which is just as well.

Tequila.I am willing to bet you mreirad someone you were sexually satisfied with. Now it’s years later, you are still growing sexually (a good thing) and her sexual growth does not compliment yours. Very common, my friend… it is the fine print of monogamy.Before setting a goal to draw out your wife’s inner vixen you should decide ahead of time that it’s ok if she’s not into it. She may never be.The fact that you purchased a strap-on and have used it together is a good sign! At a bare minimum it means she’s willing to work with you. But I hear you, it would be better if she was really into it!Communication is the key, but timing is the door. When she’s upbeat and feeling sexy (a little alcohol doesn’t hurt), or soaking in a post coital hormone rush, tactfully introduce topics of new sexual interest. If you can, frame it in terms of what you want rather than what you’d like her to do. For example, if you want her to play a more dominant role don’t say that specifically… instead tell her that YOU are interested in being the submissive sometimes.The difference may seem insignificant, but it casts her part as your benefactor rather than your subordinate. A subtle psychology.Being a dominant player in the bedroom requires a certain self assuredness, especially if that role is not generally yours. Anything you can do to prop up her self confidence will help you.Encourage her to dress the part. Take her shopping, or point her to a website, and condone her purchase of anything she thinks will make her feel sexy in the bedroom. Outward appearance, the way in which we believe others see us, plays a big role in how we act around those people.Positive feedback. When she plays the new role let her know how great it made you feel and how incredibly fucking HOT she is. Criticism (even constructive) or correction spells disaster. If she needs a little course correction, save it until she’s more comfortable in the new role.Give and take. You want her to change in some way that benefits you… consider what changes she might like to see in you and make a sincere effort to please her.Be patient. Wait for her to express herself sexually and don’t be pushy. That doesn’t mean that you can’t drop subtle hints every now and then though.Compromise. She may be willing to meet you half way… take it. Love it. Heap the praises on her and hope her sexual growth begins to move in a direction that compliments yours.Good luck G! And for what it’s worth… I still have not seen Jane’s new shoes.

El Guapo: You had me confused with James.There is a 16 boliiln dollar industry called porn. And then there are the likes of Marilyn Manson, whose recent tasty offering was picked up on on this very blog. Deny the sexualisation of violence against women if you like, but you’ll be wrong, and you’ll look pretty stupid.In this country, if a black person attacks a white person without warning, there may or may not be a racial motivator, but it will not be part of a broader pattern of endemic physical and political violence against the white people by black people. It seems as well as wishing to deny the victimisation of women by men, you also wish to deny the victimisation of black people by white people. Your dismissal of what women and black people say about their experiences is pretty objectionable. Why does it make you so uncomfortable to face the reality? Your state of denial is tantamount to an endorsement of perpetuating the state of affairs. You and people like you are part of the problem.It is not women (or black people, or gay people) that are bringing the issue of gender (or race, or sexuality) into discussions of violence. It is the people who choose their victims in a systematic way along these lines. Blaming people for stating the facts about this, however unpalatable you find them, seems a little bit childish, if you don’t mind me saying.I think the Lady makes some very good points. While you could psychologically characterise all violence as defensive, I do think that some violence is purely or largely sadistic (which is why we call such things hate crimes). The majority of violence between men does not constitute a hate crime. It is not done because of the victim’s gender, but because of some threat or slight perceived by the perpetrator to be committed by the victim.On the subject of mugging, the violence is done for financial gain, rather than hatred against a particular group per se. It may be that females are perceived as easier targets, or it may be that males (who are less likely to be in low-paid or part-time employment) are more frequently perceived to be lucrative victims. I would have to know the data on the gender patterns of victims and perpetrators to be able to comment further, but I’d be surprised if gender didn’t come into it indirectly.Where you are getting the message that anyone is saying that violence against men is acceptable, I cannot imagine. We are simply objecting to hate crimes. That doesn’t mean we endorse other crimes. Seriously, what planet are you *on*??